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Is It Ever OK to Text Message at the Table?

Wed, 09/03/2008 - 9:00am by geeksugar
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Having started a group called Cell Phone Rant, I'm fairly sure you know where I stand on cell phones at the dinner table: Emergency situations permitted only. However, being that text messaging is newer than cell phones and some people think it's less obtrusive to be "quietly" typing, I hate it.

Maybe it's because I'm old, but when my little sister whips out her phone and is click-click-clacking to someone else, I get irritated and offended — when you're with someone, be with them. I loved seeing an episode of Tori and Dean recently where one of Tori Spelling's BFFs calls her out for being "so rude" by texting while out at dinner.

But like I said, maybe this is a new thing that as a non-youth, I am just not a part of. I say, texting at the dinner table: Emergency situations only. What do you think?

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  • Lovely_1's picture
    Lovely_1
    1

    it's a no for me. i think it's SO rude when people do this! if it's urgent, i do it in the bathroom Smiling

    i mean ok i guess 1 or 2 here and there when your with friends is ok, but not 50 million when you having dinner with your boyfriends paretns!

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • aistea311's picture
    aistea311
    2

    I am guilty of texting at dinner, but only if someone else does too! This way I dont feel too bad about it. But I am trying to stay away from it when out with the BF, or my best friend, who hates when I am on the phone in any way.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • gemsera's picture
    gemsera
    3

    I dont even take my phone to dinner, unless its in my purse by accident. But its always on silent. I contact people when I want to, not the other way around Smiling

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • imdamoos's picture
    imdamoos
    4

    Grammar mistakes (like the caption above) usually annoy me way more than texting at the table.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Pallas Athena 's picture
    Pallas Athena
    5

    If I text at the table I'm definitely with people who are okay with it. If not I put my phone on silent.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • elizabeth1689's picture
    elizabeth1689
    7

    I don't mind a few quick texts while out to dinner if I'm with my sister or best friends. But if the other person spends the entire time texting someone else it's defintely annoying

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • grace_08's picture
    grace_08
    8

    Maybe it's because of my age, but I think it depends on who you're with and what kind of restaurant you're at. If I'm at a casual restaurant with good friends, I'll text at the table. However, if I'm at a nicer restaurant and/or with people other than my close friends, it's a no no.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • chippyshero2066's picture
    chippyshero2066
    9

    Depends on the situation. Cell phones should be used at the table in case of emergencies like if someone is sick or injured that need to contact you even if you are at a restaurant. As for texting at restaurant, I find that tacky especially if you are on a date with someone while texting to your friends. Geez people can wait til later to find out juicy details of someone's date.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • komler's picture
    komler
    10

    I don't think it is okay. The thing about text messages, unlike a phone call, is that most of them don't have to be answered straight away. It is perfectly possible to either wait until the dinner is done, or there is a break in the dinner if it is that formal and then answer all of them, or excuse yourself to go to the bathroom/coat room to do it if it is vitally important.

    I see texting at dinner as a sign that the person isn't really *there* so to speak, but is busy with a gazillion other things, and might want to be elsewhere.

    Clarify - if you've left your kid with a sitter, if you're expecting an important call or stuff like that- it's ok to check the phone discreetly, but I do think that the actual replying can wait until you're away from the table.

    Maybe I'm old-fashioned that way.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Lysa1237's picture
    Lysa1237
    12

    It's very rude, but I have to admit that I have done it before.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Taadie's picture
    Taadie
    13

    Only if we are waiting for someone else to arrive and they arent picking up the phone. Otherwise I try not to even look at my phone when I am out with other people unless I need to know the time.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • HipMom's picture
    HipMom
    14

    It's just rude. It's like implying your dining companinons are not interesting enough to keep you enetertained.

    If it's something you absolutely must answer, excuse yourself, go to the restroom and reply. But just ONCE, not all through dinner.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • CarolBo's picture
    CarolBo
    15

    I view placing text messaging above the person(s) in front of you is rude.

    The larger issue though is the texter’s concern for Self over the awareness of others and consideration of their needs – self-gratification over self-discipline. When this behavior becomes prevalent in society, laws ensue to fill the lack of self-restraint.

    The Hang Up Act – banning mobile phone calls during flights – is one example. It is approved by a committee in congress and is before The House of Representatives for a vote. Microsoft’s patent for a Device Manners Policy is another example. If approved and used by establishments, mobile phones will automatically be disabled when entering for example a restaurant or movie theatre.

    Ironically, the very freedom of self-expression is now slowly being diminished due to our lack of self-discipline.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • supercharger5150's picture
    supercharger5150
    16

    I think it depends on who you're with and when AND who's texting you. When I go out with my BF I'll text my mom back because she's important but I wait till we're in the car to check email or text a friend back.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • mayara's picture
    mayara
    17

    I think using cell phones at the table is rude. Now, I can see some situations in which it might be appropriate to be rude, but it is still rudeness.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • jasmint's picture
    jasmint
    18

    In general it is rude. I could justify using it if the issue at hand is very pressing or maybe if it is an extremely casual setting with a large group of familiar people, but I'd still feel the need to apologize and excuse myself under any of these circumstances.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • jessie's picture
    jessie
    19

    eh..its rude..and i've done it...guess i won't get that award again...damn

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • californiagirlx7's picture
    californiagirlx7
    21

    I hate when people text constantly at the table, it seems like they find you boring and would rather talk to other people. I have done it on occasion, but I would never make it a habit.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • jadeangel25's picture
    jadeangel25
    22

    Nope, nope, nope. Do *not* pull out that cell phone and text when around me or other friends or family. It's so rude and I hate that it's becoming acceptable to text or talk on the phone while around other people - even worse that people make you out to be rude if you're offended by it!. I'm always telling my younger relatives (this makes me sound so old! I'm only 21, but still...) to imagine as if they were having dinner with someone and they interrupted the dinner to have a conversation with an entirely different, uninvited person at the table. That wouldn’t be polite - so why should this be?

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • ang1885's picture
    ang1885
    23

    If I need to send a text when we sit down I will then I'll put my phone on silent.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • kia's picture
    kia
    24

    I hate texting at the table during meals. It is rude.

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • jennjennnbubba's picture
    jennjennnbubba
    26

    no but if you absolutely had to respond, just type it under the table, really quick and just one text not an hours worth of convo

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • kcwebgirl's picture
    kcwebgirl
    27

    i actually wait until they build up before i check them and then i ask first if it's okay if i do. most people say go ahead. but i live in a different time zone than most of my family so my dinner time is their wind down get ready for bed time so i try to make sure that if my nieces are calling to tell me how their day went, or my mom or brothers need something, i want to make sure i talk to them. even if only through text. but again, i ask or excuse myself from the table. i think common courtesy goes a long way!

    12 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • sparklestar's picture
    sparklestar
    28

    I do. It depends on the situation. If I am bored then I am really bad at showing it usually...

    12 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • foudini's picture
    foudini
    30

    Close friend who moved to another state came to visit. Us and another close friend went to a local bar for fun. She spent the entire time texting her at-the-time second bf (looong, awful story) whom she talked to, texted and IMed on the computer every day already.

    I repeatedly told her it was rude and offensive that she came here to see us yet was texting. She could barely careless or pretend to care with "Mm-hms" and "sorries" all the while still texting.

    The other close friend agreed but didn't want to play the bad guy to the visiting friend's face so she kept pretty quiet.

    Bottom line: there is NEVER a time it is okay unless it is an emergency. Which, if it were, why would you be texting anyway?

    Poor, poor manners.

    12 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • foudini's picture
    foudini
    31

    Even after telling her I would go home since she clearly had other stuff on her mind and would NOT give her a ride home, she continued texting. Unbelievable. This is but a small bit of the rude behaviour she did to her friends. We are cool now but due to some other craziness related to bf problems I lost all respect for her (she did some f**ked up sh*t).

    12 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment

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